So we made it through a new city, a new home, a hurricane, two new jobs, our first big vacation, lots of Target runs, new friends, loss, and a new car. All in 365 days. Here’s how we (kinda) did it and got the first year down.
Biggest piece of advice?
J: Don’t be afraid to be wrong. My wife is always right, but it’s really about compromise.
C: Learn to compromise. I can’t even believe I’m saying that because it’s hard to do, but it’s worth it. You have to remember this is a partnership and you have to be a serious team player with your spouse.
P.S. Swear on everything he didn’t know my answer when he answered. That just shows you seriously need to be in sync!
Favorite moment of the last year?
J: Walking around in the snow in New York City. It was the best adventure.
C: Honestly, this past weekend celebrating our anniversary was perfection. It was so cool to be able to say that we hit that milestone.
Least favorite moment of the past year?
J: Whenever we fight, it isn’t fun.
C: Really anytime that I was personally feeling inadequate because it reflected in our relationship. Even when you’re married you still have to love yourself to love others.
Biggest learning moment?
J: I always thought that love could conquer anything, and it can, but with hard work too. I didn’t know before that you really have to work at your marriage, but I learned that’s how you make it work.
C: It sounds silly looking back now, but for the first couple months every time we argued or disagreed I would freak out. I didn’t know how married life was supposed to work, but I thought it was going to be a lot more like the movies so I would worry that maybe we messed up because we would argue. I know now it’s not always rainbows and sunshine and having a disagreement isn’t the end of the world.
What was your favorite part of our wedding?
J: Definitely when you walked down the aisle. You looked so happy and beautiful.
C: Gosh, basically the whole thing, but just throughout the night we would find each other in all the fun and connect and take it all in.
Favorite thing about each other?
J: Your behind. And your pretty eyes. And your creativity and thoughtfulness.
C: You know like every 90’s rap song and it’s hot. Also, how you want to be the best husband and future father. Everything you do, you think of me and that’s so special.
What is the one thing that annoys you about the other?
J: You’re always on to the next life event and you can never just be still in life.
C: You talk too much, but I still love you.
What is the one thing that makes us work?
J: We love each other and we are in it for forever. We compromise and put in the work.
C: We were friends before anything and I didn’t even realize I was falling for you until I was in love with you. It was the most natural thing of my life.
Thanks to every person for encouraging us and making us the humans we are along the way. Stay tuned for many more years of crazy adventures to come.
cheers,
caitlin